Good morning!
Have you ever had someone ask you a question, and they answer it themselves before giving you the chance (and often in great detail)? It’s clear at that point they only asked for their own benefit.
Or how about this: You vent to a friend and they reply with a complaint of their own, usually FAR more painful and tragic than yours.
It’s natural. It’s human nature.
It’s annoying.
Being a good listener involves a huge dose of empathy. Fighting the urge to one-up is a big part of making a good impression and endearing yourself to others.
Try this…
When my parents were in the late stages of life, I would take them to church. Before getting out of the car to help them out the door, I’d sit for a brief moment, take a deep breath, and remind myself to be patient. Mine is a go-go-go world and I needed to make a conscious effort to slow the train down. After church, we’d typically go to lunch. There, my dad and I would wait as Mom chewed her food until it was liquid before swallowing.
Can you see why I needed extra patience?
Remind yourself to fight the one-up urge. Be the person who replies with a question designed to keep the client talking and not respond with, “Oh, yeah? Well let me tell you what’s on MY mind…”
And keep breathing.
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Bill Farquharson can be reached through BillFarquharson.com where you also find information on his selling books and weekly coaching program.
Bill Farquharson is a respected industry expert and highly sought after speaker known for his energetic and entertaining presentations. Bill engages his audiences with wit and wisdom earned as a 40-year print sales veteran while teaching new ideas for solving classic sales challenges. Email him at bill@salesvault.pro or call (781) 934-7036. Bill’s two books, The 25 Best Print Sales Tips Ever and Who’s Making Money at Digital/Inkjet Printing…and How? as well as information on his new subscription-based website, The Sales Vault, are available at salesvault.pro.